The Science of Sex and How to Make Women Do Anything in Bed

Step-by-Step Sex Guide for Men

By Tom Anderson

This book is dedicated to David Deida

Table of Contents

Introduction

Part 1

Female Arousal

Chapter 1

Focusing on Arousal

Three common mistakes

Chapter 2

How Women Get Aroused

Three common mistakes

Chapter 3

Female Arousal and Masculinity

Being non-reactive

Making decisions

Calm-assertiveness

Three common mistakes

Chapter 4

Female Arousal and Femininity

Your girl’s feelings

Your girl’s body

Three common mistakes

Part 2

The Male-Female Interaction (The 5 Steps of Leading)

Chapter 1

Step 1 of Leading: Making a Move (The Masculine Decision)

Leading women in bed

How men make decisions in bed

Three common mistakes

Chapter 2

Step 2 of Leading: Resistance

The purpose of resistance

Three common types of resistance

Three common mistakes

Chapter 3

Step 3 of Leading: Calm Assertive Repetition

The one thing you can never do in bed

The one thing you always have to do in bed

The resistance loop

Three common mistakes

Chapter 4

Step 4 of Leading: Acceptance or Rejection (The Feminine Decision)

How to recognize acceptance

How to recognize rejection

What to do when you get rejected

The meaning of rejection

Three common mistakes

Chapter 5

Step 5 of Leading: Giving a Compliment (Optional)

The purpose of compliments

When to give compliments

How to give compliments

Three common mistakes

Chapter 6

Step 1 to 5 Explained

Example of the male-female interaction

Three common mistakes

Part 3

Making Women Do Anything in Bed

Chapter 1

Arousal Level vs. Sexual Activity

The sexual activity scale

When the sexual activity is much greater than arousal level

When the sexual activity is close to arousal level

Three common mistakes

Chapter 2

Three Attitudes for Sexual Persuasion

1. Casual attitude

2. Playful attitude

3. Dominant attitude

Three common mistakes

Chapter 3

Five Effective Persuasion Techniques

1. The male-female interaction

2. Taking small steps

3. Telling your girl exactly what to do

4. Motivation, positive reinforcement and dirty talk

5. Being a good role model

Three common mistakes

Chapter 4

From Pick-up to Orgasm

Stage 1: Pick-up and seduction

Stage 2: Your relationship

Stage 3: Foreplay

Stage 4: Sex

Stage 5: Orgasm

Stage 1 to 5: Focusing on arousal

Three common mistakes

Introduction

This book is unlike any other sex guide. It treats sex as a science, hence the name The Science of Sex. As with any type of science, the science of sex has rules. Simple rules that can be learned and understood. And used in real life.

When you learn these rules, you will know what to do with women – in any situation. Even when they resist and say no to you. Follow the rules and everything will work out as you want them to.

This book will NOT teach you hundreds of things to do with women in bed. It will teach you the ONE right thing to do. You don’t need to learn hundreds of different things to do with women, because when you know the rules of sex, you don’t have to. You’ll instantly know the right thing to do, without even thinking about it.

Sciences such as mathematics and physics are built on only a few simple rules, but these simple rules explain everything in the universe. The science of sex works the same way. Learn the rules, and you can do ANYTHING with women.

This book has three goals:

Goal 1:

Teach you how female arousal works, so you always know how to turn women on. (This is part 1 of this book)

Goal 2:

Teach you the natural sexual interaction between men and women. This interaction is a 5 step process, and it’s the same every time you want to do something sexual with a woman. Learn this 5 step process, and you’ll always know what to do with women. (This is part 2 of this book)

Goal 3:

Teach you how to make women do anything in bed. Or to be more precise, teach you to increase your girl’s arousal, so she’ll happily go along with everything you want to do in bed. (This is part 3 of this book)

The Science of Sex focuses on the sexual interaction in the bedroom. But the rules can be used in any sexual interaction with women, such as during pick-up, on a date, during foreplay, or in a relationship as a whole.

The techniques in this book work with all heterosexual women. For practical reasons, ‘your girl’ is the term used to represent women. Depending on your lifestyle, ‘your girl’ can be substituted with ‘your girlfriend’, ‘your wife’, ‘your fuck buddy’, ‘your one-night stand’ or ‘your prostitute’.

In other words, the type of relationship with a woman isn’t important. The rules of sex will always work. Or else, it wouldn’t be science, would it…

Part 1

Female Arousal

Chapter 1

Focusing on Arousal

Arousal is the most important factor in the bedroom. When you want your girl to do something in bed, it’s her arousal level that determines whether she’s going along with it.

It’s not about how much she likes you, or how nice you are. It’s not about love, or any other feeling. And it’s not a rational decision your girl’s making. When it comes to sex, arousal is the determining factor. And therefore, your focus should be on arousal.

Women have few hard limits when it comes to sex. They say they have limits, but these limits go out the window, one by one, when you turn them on. Most women will do anything in bed, as long as you make them horny enough.

You need to take control of your girl’s arousal. She doesn’t get horny by herself, and arousal isn’t a magical thing that just happens. You, and you alone, are responsible for turning your girl on, and raising her arousal level high enough, so she will go along with whatever you want to do in bed.

This is not difficult to do. You only have to learn how women get turned on, and how the natural male-female interaction works.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 1: Thinking that your girl makes rational decisions in bed

Sex is all about feelings. And arousal is the main feeling in bed. Your girl will go along with anything, as long as she’s horny enough.

Mistake 2: Forget to turn your girl on before having sex

Your girl will only have sex when she’s aroused. Sex is impossible without arousal, so your focus should be on arousal even before having sex.

Mistake 3: Waiting for your girl to get “in the mood”

Your girl is never “in the mood” for sex, because women don’t go around being horny. It’s your job, as a man, to get your girl “in the mood”.

Chapter 2

How Women Get Aroused

Women get aroused differently than men. In fact, the way men and women get turned on is the complete opposite of each other. Therefore, arousal is the defining factor that separates men and women.

This makes for a perfect match. And it’s why men and women want each other. The reason your girl chose you is because you have qualities she’s lacking. And the reason you chose your girl is because she has qualities you’re lacking.

These qualities are called masculinity and femininity. Men are sexually attracted to femininity, while women are sexually attracted to masculinity.

When you want to turn your girl on, you have to use your masculine qualities. If you use your feminine qualities in a sexual interaction, it will always be a turn off. There are no exceptions to this. Only your masculinity can turn your girl on.

(You will learn how to use your masculinity in the next chapter. This is a practical book, and you’ll learn how to be masculine in the bedroom.)

However, there’s another way men and women get turned on. And that is by becoming more of what they already are. Men get turned on when becoming more masculine, and women get turned on when becoming more feminine.

When you become more masculine, by for instance feeling assertive or strong, you’ll feel arousal as well. And when your girl becomes more feminine, by for instance feeling beautiful or sexy, she’ll also feel arousal.

(The two ways for women to get aroused will be explained in chapters 3 and 4.)

When you know how you can make yourself more masculine, and your girl more feminine, then there are no limits for how much you can turn your girl on. And this means, in turn, that there are no limits for what your girl is willing to do in bed.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 4: Thinking that your girl is turned on the same way you are turned on

Women choose men because they’re men. Your masculine qualities turn your girl on. Your feminine qualities, such as your looks, have no effect on female arousal.

Mistake 5: Believing that men and women are equal

Equal rights and opportunities don’t mean that men and women are the same. Men and women will always be different from each other. And the difference is that men are sexually attracted to feminine qualities, while women are sexually attracted to masculine qualities.

Mistake 6: Thinking that arousal is a choice

Arousal is a feeling. And all feelings are triggered by certain stimuli. The stimuli for female arousal are masculine qualities and behaviors. They turn your girl on whether she wants to or not. She has no choice. It’s an inborn automatic response.

Chapter 3

Female Arousal and Masculinity

How women can be turned on by men is probably the biggest mystery when it comes to seduction and sex.

Most men are clueless. Out of frustration they try everything, including being super nice, giving compliments, buying gifts, helping out, looking cool (or trying to), using cologne, wearing an expensive watch, going to the gym, and so on.

The problem is that all of these examples are feminine behaviors. There’s nothing wrong with them, except they don’t affect female arousal. Only masculine behaviors turn women on.

But what is masculinity, really?

Masculinity is difficult to define. Even women can’t define it. They may use terms like ‘confident’ or ‘powerful’ to describe a masculine man, but this isn’t helpful. It doesn’t explain how you can be more masculine in the bedroom.

Here’s a more practical explanation of masculinity:

Masculinity is the ability to stay non-reactive, and the willingness to make decisions.

Being non-reactive

Being non-reactive means that you don’t react, automatically, to anything that’s going on around you. Whatever happens, you stay calm and relaxed.

Your girl will try to make you react to her. She has to know that you are a sexually attractive man, so she has to test your masculinity. As long as you stay non-reactive you’ll pass her tests, and she’ll feel sexually attracted to you.

When interacting with women, there are three different ways to be reactive. And all of them are turn offs for women.

1. Reacting emotionally

You can NEVER react emotionally to your girl. Especially in bed. You can never show frustration, anger or disappointment in sexual interactions with women.

This is so important to women that they will always test men for this during pick-up. Saying no to men is the most common test women use to find out if men are reactive or non-reactive. And if a man reacts emotionally, then it’s game over. She will lose interest instantly.

2. Starting to argue

You can NEVER start to argue with your girl. This is a huge turn off.

For instance, you want to have anal sex, but your girl doesn’t want to. And then you say, “Why? You liked it the last time.” Or “I’m sure you’ll like it if you just try.”

Now, you’re arguing, and your girl will be turned off. If you had stayed non-reactive and just moved on to something else, then your girl would have felt your masculinity.

3. Explaining yourself

Explaining yourself to your girl isn’t as big of a mistake as reacting emotionally or starting to argue. But still, it’s a turn off because women want men who go for what they want, without explaining themselves.

Your girl will probably test you for this daily. A common test women use is the annoying ‘why questions’.

“Why didn’t you answer your phone?”

“Why do you wear that shirt?”

“Why don’t you care about me?”

Don’t fall into the trap. These are tests. Your girl asks you these questions because she wants to feel your masculinity. And if you don’t answer, or answer playfully, then she’ll feel your masculinity, and the annoying questioning will stop.

Here are some examples of how to answer these questions without explaining yourself.

Your girl asks, “Why didn’t you answer your phone?”

You answer playfully, “Oh! Did you miss me?”

Your girl asks, “Why do you wear that shirt?”

You answer casually, “Because I want to.”

Your girl asks, “Why don’t you care about me?”

You keep quiet. You just look at your girl, and give her a confident smile.

Your answers can be anything really, because the questions aren’t meant to be taken literally. They are just tests for your masculinity. And as long as you don’t explain yourself you’ll pass the tests.

The reason your girl has to test you, daily, for your non-reactiveness is because masculinity can’t be seen visually. You can see your girl’s femininity, such as her body, without doing anything. And if she takes care of herself, you’ll stay sexually attracted to her.

But your masculinity can only be proven when you’re tested. Anyone can be confident and non-reactive when they don’t face any resistance. Your girl knows this instinctively, so she has to test you to find out if you’re still a sexually attractive man.

Making decisions

The willingness to make decisions is the other half of your masculinity. Staying calm and being non-reactive is the passive part of your masculinity, while making decisions is the active part of masculinity.

This willingness to make decisions is essential in any sexual interaction with women. This is because women are sexually passive. Your girl expects you to make sexual decisions.  If you don’t take charge and make decisions in bed, then nothing will ever happen.

Making a decision will always lead to female arousal. Every time you make a decision in a sexual interaction, your girl will be turned on. It doesn’t even matter what you do, because it’s the act of making a decision that creates female arousal. Even when you try to do something your girl rejects, it will still create arousal.

And it doesn’t have to be big decisions. Every little move you make will create some arousal. And when you make one small decision after another, your girl will slowly become more and more aroused. And the more aroused she gets, the more she’s willing to do.

Calm-assertiveness

The willingness to make decisions and the ability to stay non-reactive is often referred to as calm-assertiveness.

Calm-assertiveness is both an attitude and a skill you have to develop. When you always stay calm-assertive in bed, your girl will feel both safe and turned on at the same time.

She knows that you’ll always take charge and come up with things to do in bed. And at the same time, she knows that she can reject your suggestions, without you reacting emotionally or starting to argue.

With this calm-assertive attitude, you’ll be able to deal with anything that may happen in bed. You will stay calm no matter what, and you’ll assertively take action whenever you want to. In other words, you are now a sexually attractive man.

This is the basis for which your girl will do anything in the bedroom. And the steps you go through to make this happen will be explained in Part 2.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 7: Not understand that your girl has to test you every day

Your masculinity cannot be seen visually. This means that your girl has to test your masculinity every day. She will ask you annoying questions, and utter random and meaningless statements. And when you don’t react emotionally or start to argue, she’ll feel a sexual pull towards you.

Mistake 8: Not understand that women are sexually passive

You have to do EVERYTHING in bed. Your girl will not come up with things to do sexually, and she expects you to make all the decisions. Your girl may even seem disinterested in sex. But this is not the case. She’s waiting for you to take action.

Mistake 9: Thinking that women are aroused, or not aroused

Female arousal isn’t like a light switch. It’s more like a volume knob. In your daily life, your girl’s arousal level will not be turned off, but her arousal level will of course be low. But if you are a calm-assertive man, then this low level of arousal will be enough for her to stay in the relationship, and she’ll never think about cheating. When you during foreplay and sex use more of your calm-assertiveness, she’ll gradually become more and more aroused.

Chapter 4

Female Arousal and Femininity

There’s another way women get turned on. And that is by becoming more feminine. In as sexual interaction with a man, women will always be turned on when they become more feminine.

But what is femininity?

It’s as difficult to define as masculinity. Here is a practical definition you can use when interacting with women:

Femininity is your girl’s feelings and your girl’s body.

Your girl’s feelings

Every feeling, emotion and sensation is part of femininity. And in a sexual interaction with a man, all feelings, emotions and sensations will turn into female arousal.

For instance, when you make your girl laugh, she’ll get aroused as well. When you give her a massage, tickle her, spank her, tease her, and so on, she’ll always get aroused.

There are no exceptions here. Every feeling, emotion and sensation will make your girl more aroused. And the more feelings she feels, the more aroused she’ll get.

Also the way she feels about herself is a turn on. When you make your girl feel beautiful, or sexy, or slutty, or whatever you want her to feel, she’ll become more aroused.

And that brings us to the other part of femininity.

Your girl’s body

Your girl’s body is also part of her femininity. When you give your girl’s body attention, she’ll become more feminine, and this means, in turn, more arousal.

Use all your senses to give her attention. Look at her body, touch her skin, smell her scent, listen to her moan, and taste her lips. Every time you give your girl’s body attention in a sexual interaction, she’ll become aroused as well.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 10: Focusing more on your body than your girl’s body

Your body is not important when having sex. It’s all about your girl’s body.

Mistake 11: Not focusing on your girl’s feelings

If you want to make your girl do anything in bed, then you have to boost her arousal. Using her feelings is an effective way to do this. Try to make her feel as much as humanly possible. The more she feels the more aroused she’ll become.

Mistake 12: Trying to change arousal directly

Don’t try to make your girl feel more arousal. Instead, try to make her feel more. In bed, all feelings will turn into female arousal.

Part 2

The Male-Female Interaction (The 5 Steps of Leading)

Chapter 1

Step 1 of Leading: Making a Move (The Masculine Decision)

Leading women in bed

The sexual interaction between men and women follows a specific pattern. You have to follow this pattern every time you want to do something with a woman. You can do whatever you want to do, but you have to follow the pattern.

The pattern is a five step process. And you, the man, have to lead both yourself and your girl through the five steps. Hence, the name ‘the 5 steps of leading’.

You cannot rely on your girl to take the lead in bed, since women are passive in all sexual interactions. (Including pick-up, seduction, foreplay and sex.) Being passive doesn’t mean women never make decisions. In fact, every time you take the lead and make a decision, your girl has to make a decision as well. She has to make the decision to accept or reject your lead.

In this way, sex is a democracy. The man comes up with the things to do, while the woman votes ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

The male-female interaction may seem complicated at first, but in reality it’s an easy way for men and women to come up with things to do in bed. In fact, it’s the only way men and women can interact sexually. This 5 step process gives you and your girl a chance to live out your fantasies in the bedroom.

(Each of the steps will be explained in chapters 1-5. And in chapter 6 the whole process will be demonstrated with several examples.)

How men make decisions in bed

Everything that happens in bed starts right here, with step 1. It starts with you and your decision to do something. But it’s also here that it goes wrong for most men. Because the way you make decisions in bed is different from everything you have learned about making good choices for yourself.

To make good sexual decisions, you have to consider four factors:

1. Selfishness

You’ve learned to think of other people’s needs, and that selfishness is bad. But not in the bedroom. If you try to figure out what your girl wants to do, then you’ll get nowhere.

There are three good reasons for this.

First of all, it’s impossible for you to know what your girl wants to do, unless you’re a mind reader.

Second of all, there’s a high probability your girl won’t come up with anything to do in bed. This is because women’s minds are different than men’s when it comes to sex.

Women don’t like to make creative decisions in bed. So, if you ask your girl what she wants to do, then she’ll look like a big question mark. Your girl is more comfortable with accepting or rejecting your proposals.

Third of all, the fact that you come up with things to do in bed is a big turn on for your girl. Selfishness is part of your assertive masculinity, and it triggers female arousal.

2. Feeling instead of thinking

We all learn to think before we act. But that’s impossible when having sex, because sex is all about feelings. Sex isn’t rational, and it’s nothing “smart” to do in the bedroom. The only way to make a move in bed is to listen to your feelings. They will tell you what to do.

3. Making a creative decision

This is the main difference between how men and women make decisions in bed. The male decision is a creative decision. It has to come from deep inside, from your feelings and needs.

You can of course draw inspiration from your girl. When you look at her beautiful body or touch her soft skin, you’ll be inspired to come up with things to do.

As long as you stay in the present moment you’ll stimulate your creativity, and you’ll always come up with something to do.

4. Go for it

When you feel like doing something with your girl, then you simply have to go for it. You can’t censor yourself in the bedroom.

Your girl wants you to be honest with yourself, and do whatever you feel like doing. She’ll stop you if she doesn’t want to follow your lead. But whatever you feel like doing, you have to go for it.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 13: Not make decisions in the first place

Your dream girl will not knock on your front door, and women will not just do wild things in bed. You are the man, and you have to take action.

Mistake 14: Trying to think of smart moves

Sex is nothing to think about. You do whatever you feel like doing. And that’s it.

Mistake 15: Trying to make big moves

With women you have to take one small step at a time. For instance, if you want to have anal sex with your girl, then you have to go through maybe dozens of steps. It may take several weeks before she’s ready to go all the way.

Chapter 2

Step 2 of Leading: Resistance

When making a move in bed, you would think your girl will either accept or reject your proposal. But with women it’s not always that straightforward. Often, you get something called resistance.

Resistance is when the woman neither accepts your decision, nor rejects it. Other expressions for resistance can be, playing hard to get, being “difficult”, flirting, teasing, testing, or being bitchy.

For instance, you want to kiss your girl, and say, “Come here, baby! Give me a kiss!” But then, she smiles and says, “You wish! I don’t think so.”

Women don’t resist to be difficult, though. Resistance has a specific purpose, and it’s an important part of the natural male-female interaction.

The purpose of resistance

The purpose of resistance is to test your masculinity. As mentioned earlier, masculinity can’t be seen visually. It can only be shown when facing resistance.

Your girl resists your move to see how you’ll react. If you react emotionally or start to argue, then she’ll be turned off. But if you stay calm-assertive, she’ll feel your masculinity, and she’ll be sexually drawn to you. In other words, resistance is a test for your masculinity, so your girl can be turned on.

Resistance often occurs when your girl is almost turned on enough to follow your lead. But she needs to feel more arousal, and she’ll offer you some resistance, so she can feel your masculinity. And if you stay calm-assertive, she’ll feel more aroused, and she’ll be ready to accept your proposal.

Whether resistance turns into acceptance or rejection depends mostly on your reaction to your girl’s resistance. (This will be explained in the next chapter.)

Three common types of resistance

1. No reaction

You want to do something sexual, and tell your girl what to do. But you get no reaction from your girl. She acts like she didn’t hear you.

This non-reaction is the most common type of resistance when having sex.

2. Saying “no”

You want to do something, but your girl says, “No.”

This is a common type of resistance when picking up women.

(It’s important to know when no really means no. This will be explained in chapter 4.)

3. Playful resistance with mixed signals

You make your move, and your girl says, “No” and smiles at the same time. Or she physically pushes you away, and smiles.

This is common during pick-up, on a date, and during foreplay.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 16: Thinking that resistance is something negative

Resistance is a natural part of seduction and sex. Women use resistance to get turned on.

Mistake 17: Thinking that no resistance is something positive

If you don’t get resistance from a woman, it usually means that she isn’t attracted to you. And you’ll have little chance of showing her that you’re a calm-assertive man.

Mistake 18: Forgetting that no reaction is a type of resistance

In bed, women react instantly to men’s lead. There isn’t any delay between your actions or “commands” and your girl’s responses. This means that when your girl doesn’t react instantly, it’s always resistance. In other words, no reaction from your girl is per definition a type of resistance.

Chapter 3

Step 3 of Leading: Calm Assertive Repetition

This step separates men who are okay with women from men who can get women to do almost anything in bed.

Responding the right way to your girl’s resistance will give her arousal a boost. But if you respond the wrong way, it will be a huge turn off, and your girl may even want to stop having sex all together.

This step has two clear rules. And as long as you follow these two rules, everything will work out fine. The first rule is something you can NEVER do when your girl resists your lead, and the second rule is something you ALWAYS have to do when she resists your lead.

The one thing you can never do in bed

You can NEVER be reactive when your girl resists your lead. That includes all the three types of being reactive: You can never start to argue, explain yourself, or react emotionally.

For instance, you want your girl to give you a blowjob, and you say, “Suck my cock.” But when she says “no,” you get frustrated, and say, “But Why? You like giving blowjobs.”

Now, you’re both arguing and reacting emotionally. This is a big mistake. Your girl will be turned off by your feminine behavior, and there’s no chance she’ll give you a blowjob. And maybe she even wants to stop having sex all together.

The one thing you always have to do in bed

When your girl resists your lead, there’s only one acceptable response. And that is persistence. You have to calmly and assertively repeat whatever you’re doing. You have already decided what you want to do, and a little resistance shouldn’t change your mind.

For instance, when your girl says no to give you a blowjob, then you simply repeat yourself by saying, “Suck my cock.” This will give your girl’s arousal a boost, because assertiveness is an important part of your masculinity.

And when you stay calm as well, without reacting emotionally or starting to argue, she’ll feel even more of your masculinity.

When repeating yourself you don’t have to say or do the exact same thing. For instance, you could have said, “Open your mouth, baby. Give me a nice blowjob.”

But you couldn’t have said, “That’s okay. Come here and give me a kiss,” or something that’s different from your girl giving you a blowjob. Because giving in to resistance is the opposite of being assertive, and therefore a turn off.

The resistance loop

When your girl resists, and you calmly and assertively repeat yourself, then it’s a good chance your girl will resist you once more. If this happens, you simply have to repeat yourself a second time.

This is called a resistance loop, and it’s very common. It usually happens several times when having sex.

When you’re in a resistance loop you’re going around in a loop between step 2 and step 3, where you are persisting, and your girl is resisting.

This loop ends when your girl decide to accept or reject your proposal. It’s important that you don’t end the loop. You just have to stay calm and continue to be assertive.

The resistance loop will drive up your girl’s arousal, because every time you stay calm-assertive when she’s giving you resistance, she’ll feel your masculinity. This means that the resistance loop usually ends with your girl giving in and accepts your proposal.

It’s not uncommon to go around in this loop 5-6 times or more before your girl accepts your proposal. Just stay patient and keep on persisting, without arguing or showing any emotions.

An example of the resistance loop:

You say, “Suck my cock.” But your girl doesn’t respond. (This is a common type of resistance.)

You say once again, “Suck my cock.” But your girl still doesn’t respond.

You say calmly, “Open your mouth.” But she still doesn’t respond.

You persist, and say, “Open your mouth, baby!” Now, she opens her mouth and gives you a blowjob.

In this example, your girl is not giving in because you’re pressuring her. Pressuring women will never work because women won’t go along with anything they don’t want to do in bed. In fact, when a woman feels pressured, she’ll always reject your lead.

In the example your girl goes along with your proposal because she feels your calm assertive persistence.  If she had felt that you desperately needed her to give you a blowjob, then she would have been turned off. This is because being desperate is an emotion, and emotions belong to femininity, and is therefore a turn off.

Only calm assertive persistence will turn resistance into acceptance.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 19: Reacting emotionally to your girl’s resistance

Sadly, this is common in most relationships. It’s not only a turn off, but it’s borderline abusive as well.

Mistake 20: Wanting to know the reason for the resistance

There’s a good chance your girl doesn’t know the reason for her resistance. It’s just something she feels like doing. And also, she is her own person, and she doesn’t have to justify herself to you.

Mistake 21: Believing that resistance is the same as rejection

Resistance and rejection are very similar. But your response to resistance is completely different from your response to rejection. When your girl resists your lead, you always have to persist. But when your girl rejects your lead, you always have to stop. (This will be explained in the next chapter.)

Chapter 4

Step 4 of Leading: Acceptance or Rejection (The Feminine Decision)

The male-feminine interaction is a way for both you and your girl to find out what you want to do in bed. Since women don’t like to be creative in the bedroom, you have to take the lead and do whatever you like to do. And when your girl accepts or rejects your proposal, you’ll find out if this is something she wants to do as well.

How to recognize acceptance

This is quite obvious. When your girl goes along with whatever you want to do, then she’s accepting your proposal.

The only pitfall here is to believe that women have to say yes to your proposals. It would be weird if your girl had to give you verbal permission every time you take the lead in bed. As long as she doesn’t reject your proposal, it means that she’s accepting it.

How to recognize rejection

Recognizing rejection is more difficult. But it’s imperative that you do, because if you don’t, then you’re violating your girl’s boundaries.

The difficult thing with rejection is that women don’t use any clear signals for rejection. There are no behaviors or words that clearly mean that you have to stop. Even when your girl says “no” or “stop” it can still mean that she wants you to continue with whatever you’re doing.

For instance, when you tickle your girl, she’ll probably be laughing and screaming, “NO! NO! NO! PLEASE STOP!” But this doesn’t mean that you have to stop.

And to make it even more difficult, resistance and rejection are often inseparable. Women can react the same way when they both resist your lead, and when they reject your lead. For instance, using the word ‘no’ is one of the most common ways women resist. And at the same time, ‘no’ is obviously a word women use when they need you to stop.

It’s seems impossible to know for sure when women want you to stop. But there is a reliable way to find out if your girl is just resisting, or if she really wants you to stop. And that is by following two simple rules.

Rule 1: The first resistance is never rejection

When you make a move and get resistance from your girl, then it’s impossible for you to know what it means. Really, it’s impossible. So don’t even try. You cannot know for sure if she wants you to stop. She may even be screaming, “NO! NO! NO! PLEASE STOP!” such as the tickling example above, and you still wouldn’t know.

But that’s okay. Because the first resistance is never rejection. You can safely continue, as long as you stay calm and assertive, and follow rule 2.

Rule 2: If the resistance gets more assertive, then it means rejection

If your girl starts resisting more assertively, then it only means one thing: you have to stop. This is how women reject men in bed. In fact, it’s the only way you can be sure that your girl wants you to stop.

More assertive resistance means that she wants you to do something else. This is not another test or another type of resistance. She has now made her decision, and you have to accept it.

In the tickling example your girl started out with laughing and saying “stop” at the same time. But if she had stopped laughing, and with a serious voice had said “stop”, then it could only have meant that she wants you to stop. This is because she’s now resisting more assertively.

What to do when you get rejected

Every time your girl rejects your lead, you have to stop whatever you’re doing, and you have to do something else. And of course, you can’t react emotionally or start to argue. Accept that she is her own boss, and you have no right to even question her decision.

You can try again later, maybe even ten seconds later, but for now you have to go back to step 1 and come up with something else to do.

The meaning of rejection

When your girl rejects your lead, you may think she doesn’t like you, or that she thinks you’re a jerk or dirty pig, or something like that. But this is not the case. From a woman’s point of view, rejection is without any meaning.

In fact, your girl will respect you for following your feelings and going for it. And she will be thankful that you’re willing to try out different things, because she knows she’ll never have the courage to do it herself. She will also be thankful that you try to find out what she likes to do in bed.

And most importantly, she’ll now know that you accept her limits, without reacting emotionally or starting to argue. And this makes her trust you.

Soon she’ll realize that you’re a man she can trust, and this means she’ll let you do more and more in bed, because she knows you’ll always read her signals the right way and stop when she wants you to. And that trust is priceless if you want your girl to do anything in bed.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 22: Stopping after the first resistance

The first resistance may be very assertive. But this is irrelevant. You can safely continue.

Mistake 23: Not recognizing ‘more assertive’ resistance

‘More assertive’ resistance is the only way of knowing that your girl wants you to stop. In practice, this is not difficult. Women will start giving you clear signals (more assertive signals) when they have reached their limits.

Mistake 24: Rejection doesn’t mean rejection forever

Women live in the present moment. So, you can always try again later.

Chapter 5

Step 5 of Leading: Giving a Compliment (Optional)

You have dealt with resistance, you have been persistent, and your girl is giving in and doing the thing you want to do in bed. Now, you can of course go back to step 1, and do the next thing that pops up in your mind.

But if you’re serious about getting your girl to do anything in bed, then you should give her a compliment before moving on to the next thing.

Compliments are often misunderstood and misused. They aren’t used to be nice or polite. Women don’t like these “nice” compliments, because they’re seen as manipulation. It’s more like a desperate attempt to be liked.

The purpose of compliments

In bed, women like to please. Your girl wants to be sexy for you, she wants you to enjoy her body, and she wants to give you a good experience.

In order to please you, she has to know when you’re satisfied with her performance. And this is where compliments come in. You use compliments as positive feedback. When she does something you like, you give her a compliment.

In this way she’ll learn how to please you. And the next time you’re doing the same thing, she won’t only remember your positive feedback, she’ll feel more confident as well. This means that she’ll be much more willing to follow your lead.

Even when you’re doing something new in bed, she’ll know that there’s a compliment waiting for her if she just follows your lead and pleases you the right way.

When to give compliments

You give a compliment as soon as your girl follows your lead, or when she tries to follow your lead. Sometimes it may be difficult or impossible to follow your lead, but if she at least tries, then you give her a compliment.

For instance, you want to deepthroat your girl, and you say, “Take it deeper, baby. Take it all the way. You can do it.” Now, this may be impossible for her to do, but never the less, as soon as she tries, you give her a compliment. This positive reinforcement will make her try even harder.

However, you cannot give compliments for no effort. Because if you do, your girl will never know when you’re pleased. Only give compliments when she follows your lead, or at least tries.

Compliments can also be given to your girl’s body or to her clothes. But this should be in connection with something she’s doing.

For instance, if you like your girl to wear high heels, then give her compliments when she’s wearing high heels. But don’t give compliments every time she’s getting dressed, no matter what she’s wearing. Because then she’ll never know what you really like.

How to give compliments

Since you only give compliments when you’re truly happy with your girl’s performance, you have to make sure that she feels your appreciation.

Usually, this means that you have to give compliments with an upbeat tone of voice. But when having sex, this would be too feminine.

Instead, make sure she knows how turned on you are. Use a deeper and more aggressive tone of voice, and use dirty talk if appropriate. In bed, moaning is often the easiest way to give a compliment.

For instance, you tell your girl to turn around and pull down her panties. And when she does, you say with and intense and slightly aggressive tone of voice, “Oh yeah, baby! That’s a fucking hot ass! I love it!”

Giving compliments is especially effective if your girl is shy, or you’re doing something she’s a little afraid of doing.

For instance, you want your girl to scream louder while fucking, and you say, “Scream for me, baby. Come on. Let me hear you scream.” And as soon as she just tries to let go of her ambitions you start giving her compliments, such as “That’s it. I love it! That’s so fucking hot! … Give me more … Scream louder!”

Three common mistakes

Mistake 25: Giving compliments for no good reason

This is often seen as a manipulation technique used by desperate men. And it’s therefore a huge turn off. Only give compliments when you’re truly happy or impressed with your girl’s performance. Or when she’s trying her best to please you.

Mistake 26: Just saying the words

If you’re truly happy with your girl’s performance, then she’ll only believe you if you sound happy or turned on. Use feelings and intensity in your voice, and use dirty talk.

Mistake 27: Not using compliments enough

Compliments can be used almost all the time when having sex. It’s such a powerful tool in the bedroom.

Chapter 6

Step 1 to 5 Explained

You have learned all the steps. You know how to make a move, deal with resistance, being calm-assertive, deal with rejection, and giving compliments. Now, you have to put it all together.

There are only three ways to go through the steps.

1. Making a move without resistance or rejection

Step 1: You make a move

Step 4: Your girl accepts

Step 5: You give a compliment (if you feel like it)

Example:

You start to spank your girl’s ass. (Step 1)

She doesn’t do anything. (Step 4: Acceptance)

You say, “Your ass is so fucking hot!” (Step 5: Compliment)

2. Making a move with resistance and then acceptance

Step 1: You make a move

Step 2: Your girl resists

Step 3: You persist

Step 4: Your girl accepts

Step 5: You give a compliment (if you feel like it)

Alternatively, you may go into a resistance loop between step 2 and 3.

Example:

You start to spank your girl’s ass. (Step 1)

She covers her ass cheek with one of her hands. (Step 2: Resistance)

You assertively remove her hand and continue the spanking. (Step 3: Repetition)

Your girl doesn’t stop you. (Step 4: Acceptance)

You say, “Your ass is so fucking hot!” (Step 5: Compliment)

3. Making a move with resistance and then rejection

Step 1: You make a move

Step 2: Your girl resists

Step 3: You persist

Step 4: Your girl rejects

Step 1: You come up with something else to do

Alternatively, you may go into a resistance loop between step 2 and 3.

Example:

You start to spank your girl’s ass. (Step 1)

She covers her ass cheek with one of her hands. (Step 2: Resistance)

You assertively remove her hand and continue the spanking. (Step 3: Repetition)

She covers her ass cheek and says, “It’s painful.” (Step 4: Rejection, because this is more assertive resistance)

You turn your girl around and start sucking her nipples. (Step 1)

Of course, you have to learn the steps by heart so you never have to think about them. Thinking and having sex at the same time won’t work. When you know the steps, without thinking about them, you can go seamlessly from one thing to the next. And it will feel natural for both you and your girl.

Now, we can look at a more comprehensive example, where you go from one thing to the next.

Example of the male-female interaction

Your girl comes out of the shower, wearing only a towel. You say, “Come here, baby.” (Step 1), and she comes over. (Step 4: Acceptance) - You say, “Look at this sexy girl. All nice and clean.” (Step 5: Compliment)

You remove her towel. (Step 1 and 4: She doesn’t resist)

You smile and say, “Turn around for me. Let me look at this ass.” (Step 1) – She smiles and says, “No! I’m shy. Turn the lights down.” (Step 2: Resistance) – You say, “Turn around.” (Step 3: Calm-assertiveness) – She turns around. (Step 4: Acceptance)

You grab her breasts from behind. (Step 1) – She laughs and then breathes deeply. (Step 4: Acceptance) – You say, “I love these breasts. They’re so sensitive.” (Step 5: Compliment)

You take her hand, and you walk into the bedroom. (Step 1 and 4: Acceptance)

You playfully push her onto the bed. (Comment: Here, your girl doesn’t have time to resist, so she can’t make a decision to reject your lead. You’re making the decision for her. Normally, this is not a good idea, but out of the context of the situation you know that she wouldn’t mind.)

You say playfully, “What are you doing? Are you that desperate to get into my bed?” (Comment: This is playful teasing, and it will increase female arousal.)

She laughs, shakes her head, and says, “You’re bad.” (This is playful teasing, and a test.)

You say, “Spread your legs.” (Step 1) – She smiles and says playfully, “No!” (Step 2: Resistance) – You look into her eyes and playfully act angry, while you say, “Spread these legs, NOW!” (Step 3: Calm-assertiveness and playfulness) – She pretends to be a virgin and says, “I’m a virgin. I’m shy.” (Step 2: Resistance loop) – You slowly open her legs with your hands. (Step 3: Calm-assertiveness) – She doesn’t stop you. (Step 4: Acceptance) – You say, “That’s my girl.” (Step 5: Compliment)

You go down to lick her pussy. (Step 1) – She pushes your head away with her hand. (Step 2: Resistance) – You say, “It’s cool.” Then you go down once more. (Step 3: Calm-assertiveness) – She pushes your head away again, and says, “Not today.” (Step 4: Rejection, because she’s stopping you more assertively)

You look at her and say casually, “That’s okay.” (Comment: You’re accepting her rejection without reacting emotionally or starting to argue.)

Then you say playfully, “Turn around! I want to see that hot ass again.” (Step 1: You go directly from rejection to doing something else. No big deal. You can lick her pussy tomorrow.)

…And you can write the rest yourself. Just do whatever you feel like doing and take it from there.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 28: Thinking and having sex at the same time

If you have little experience with sex, then, of course, it’s difficult. But you will learn fast, and soon you’ll enjoy sex without thinking about the 5 steps.

Mistake 29: Moving too fast and forgetting to enjoy your girl

Don’t just move from one thing to the next. Now you have the tools to make your girl do almost anything in bed. So, enjoy every little thing you do.

Mistake 30: Plan out too much before having sex

It’s okay to have a couple of ideas in your mind before starting sex. But you never know what your girl wants to do, and what she’ll reject. Instead, play of your girl and come up with things to do in the present moment. This makes sex more dynamic and fun.

Part 3

Making Women Do Anything in Bed

Chapter 1

Arousal Level vs. Sexual Activity

Your girl’s arousal level is the main factor that determines what kinds of sexual activities she’s willing to do. When your girl sees a specific activity as very sexual, she’ll only wants to do it if she’s very aroused. And when she sees a sexual activity as almost non-sexual, then she’ll do it without feeling much arousal.

The sexual activity scale

Let’s arrange different sexual activities on a sliding scale from 0 to 10. Where 0 is non-sexual and 10 is extremely sexual.

These numbers will be different from woman to woman, depending on her past experiences, her fears, and her upbringing.

For instance, if your girl has never given a blowjob, then she’ll probably see this as a very sexual thing to do, mainly because she’s afraid of doing it wrong. Maybe she will rank it as high as 8 on the sexual activity scale.

But when she gets more experience with giving blowjobs, and when she starts liking it, she may rank it as low as 3.

Below is an example of the sexual activity scale, based on the “average” woman.

10: Rimming

9:  Anal sex

8:  Deepthroating

7:  Bondage

6:  Intercourse

5:  Oral sex

4:  Starting sex

3:  Starting foreplay

2:  Kissing

1:  Holding hands

0:  Talking

Let’s also put female arousal on a similar scale from 0 to 10. Where 0 is no arousal and 10 is extreme arousal.

A woman will only do a sexual activity if her arousal level is equal or greater than the sexual activity.

For instance, if your girl perceives kissing as a relatively sexual act (for instance a 5 on the sexual activity scale), then she’ll only kiss you if her arousal level is 5 or above.

When the sexual activity is much greater than arousal level

If you try to do something very sexual with your girl when her arousal level is low, then she will reject your proposal.

For instance, if you and your girl are watching the news, and then you suddenly try to tongue kiss her, you’ll get nowhere because her arousal level is close to 0.

She’s not rejecting you. In fact, it has nothing to do with you, so don’t take it personally. She’s rejecting your lead because her level of arousal is too low for that kind of sexual activity.

Instead, you need to start with something less sexual. For instance, first turn off the news, then start to talk, then start with some non-sexual touching, and finally, you can go for the kiss.

Every time you do something, you’ll go through the 5 steps of leading. And your girl will feel more and more of your calm, assertive masculinity. In this way, you’ll slowly raise your girl’s arousal level.

When the sexual activity is close to arousal level

When your girl’s arousal level is almost high enough for the sexual activity you want to do, then she’ll use resistance.

Her resistance will force you to be more calm-assertive, and this will drive up female arousal. Resistance will then turn into acceptance.

Alternatively, you can temporally do something you know will raise your girl’s arousal. And then go back doing whatever you wanted to do.

For instance, if you know your girl always gets turned on when you squeeze her breasts, you can squeeze her breasts for a couple of seconds, and then go back to the sexual activity you first wanted to do. Now, her level of arousal is higher, and she’ll probably not resist anymore.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 31: Trying to do something sexual without considering female arousal

Don’t try to have sex with your girl when she isn’t turned on, and don’t try to do something wild in bed when she isn’t extremely horny. Instead, gradually be more and more sexual.

Mistake 32: Being afraid of doing something too sexual

Even though you should gradually do more and more sexual things in bed, you should never be afraid of doing something sexual with a woman. The worst that can happen is that your girl rejects your lead. Then you just do something less sexual. It’s no big deal.

Mistake 33: Thinking that your girl will do something in bed, because she did it the last time

What happened last time has no meaning. Even though your girl had anal sex yesterday, it doesn’t mean she’ll do it today. The sexual activity scale will change from day to day.

Chapter 2

Three Attitudes for Sexual Persuasion

Your attitudes determine how you lead women. When you have the right attitudes toward yourself, your girl, and sex, you’ll be much more persuasive. And this means your girl is much more willing to follow your lead.

There are three basic attitudes for sexual persuasion.

1. Casual attitude

This is the attitude you’re going to use the most. Casual attitude is persuasive in any sexual interaction with women. Including pick-up, date, foreplay, sex, and in the relationship as a whole.

Casual attitude is when you just do whatever you feel like doing, without thinking about the outcome. You take it for granted that your girl will follow your lead, so you don’t even think about it.

For instance, you’re on a coffee date with a woman, and you feel like inviting her back to your place. Without thinking about it you get up from your chair, and say casually, “Let’s go. I want to show you my apartment.”

A casual attitude is persuasive because it shows confidence, which is another term for calm-assertiveness. When you take it for granted that your girl will follow your lead, she will instantly get aroused by your confidence. And arousal usually means that she’ll follow your lead. (Just as you would follow a beautiful woman home if she asked you to.)

A man with a casual attitude doesn’t care about what’s considered normal. For instance, if he’s having sex with a one-night stand, and he’s used to getting rimjobs from women, then he would just casually say, “Lick my ass.”

He wouldn’t think twice about it, because this activity is normal for him. And when the woman sees that he’s so casual about it, then she’ll just go along with it, because it will feel normal for her as well. In other words, when you have a casual attitude, people around you will see everything you do as normal.

2. Playful attitude

This is also an attitude you’re going to use a lot. You can use it in any sexual interaction with women, with the exception of intimate lovemaking.

Playful attitude is when you’re relaxed and antagonistic at the same time. You make fun of your girl, but you do it with a smile. You comment on her flaws, you accuse her of only thinking about sex, you tickle her, or you humiliate her. But it’s okay, because you do it playfully.

A playful attitude is persuasive because it shows both parts of your masculinity. Your antagonistic behavior is part of your assertiveness, and when you’re relaxed and playful as well, you’re showing off the calm side of your masculinity.

When you’re using playful attitude it’s difficult for your girl to resist your lead, because she will be aroused by your calm-assertiveness.

3. Dominant attitude

This is an attitude you’ll be using during foreplay and sex. Especially when fucking.

It’s similar to casual attitude, except that you use much more assertiveness. In fact, your assertiveness will turn into aggression.

When you lead with a dominant attitude, you have to speak with a deep aggressive voice, and you can use dirty talk to make it even more dominant.

For instance, while fucking, you may say with an aggressive tone of voice, “Suck my fucking cock you little bitch!” Or you may use your physical strength to dominate your girl, such as holding her down while fucking her, or pulling her hair.

Dominant attitude is persuasive to women because you’re using extreme amounts of assertiveness. And since assertiveness is part of your masculinity, it’s a huge turn on.

When using this amount of assertiveness you also have to use extreme amounts of the calm side of your calm-assertiveness. Or else, you will lose control, and your assertiveness and aggression will turn into anger and violence.

Since you always stay in control of your feelings when using a dominant attitude, your girl will not be scared of your dominant behavior, but she’ll be extremely turned on.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 34: Thinking that you can change your behaviors without changing your attitudes

When you become casual, playful, and dominant, you don’t have to think about doing the right things in bed. You will do them automatically.

Mistake 35: Thinking that women follow behaviors

When leading your girl, she will follow your lead if she feels you have the right attitude. It’s not what you do - it’s how you feel about it.

Mistake 36: Thinking that being dominant is the same as being angry.

You can never be angry in sexual interactions with women. Anger is an emotion, and therefore part of your femininity. For women, anger is both scary and a turn off. Aggression however, is a turn on for women, because it’s always under control.

Chapter 3

Five Effective Persuasion Techniques

1. The male-female interaction

The male-female interaction is in itself a collection of different persuasion techniques. It consists of all the different aspects that will drive up female arousal, and make it near to impossible for your girl to reject your lead. Not because she can’t say no to you, but because she doesn’t want to.

Here are the different persuasion techniques included in the male-female interaction. All of them affect female arousal.

- Taking control and come up with things to do

- Being persistent

- Never react emotionally

- Never argue

- Never explain yourself

- Casual attitude

- Playful attitude

- Dominant attitude

- Making your girl feel emotions and sensations

- Giving attention to your girl’s body

- Giving sexual compliments

All of these are sexual persuasion techniques. And when you put them in a system, like the male-female interaction (the 5 steps), then they will complement each other, and you’ll use each one of them at the right time.

This means that you’ll know how to handle any situation. And no matter what you do, you’ll drive up female arousal. You can’t go wrong, because when you follow the steps, you’ll make your girl more and more aroused.

This makes the male-female interaction one hell of a persuasion technique.

2. Taking small steps

When leading women in bed, it’s a good idea to take many small steps instead of a few big ones.

For instance, if your girl is a one-night stand, then she’ll probably be fearful of doing pretty much anything. She’s afraid of being judged, she’s afraid of not being beautiful enough, and she’s afraid of doing things wrong.

So, when you want her to take off her clothes, then don’t just say, “Take off your clothes.” That would be too much pressure, and she’ll reject your lead. Instead, start with taking off her top. Then do something else, like kissing or playful teasing. Then you continue with her pants, and so on. Eventually she’ll be naked.

Taking small steps is a much more effective way of leading.

3. Telling your girl exactly what to do

Women often say no when they’re uncertain of what to do. For instance, if you tell your girl to give you a blowjob, then she’ll feel a lot of pressure, especially if she’s inexperienced with giving blowjobs.

You can take away almost all of the pressure by combining the previous technique (taking small steps) and telling her exactly what to do.

For instance, you start out by saying, “Suck my cock.” But she resists because she’s afraid of doing it wrong. Then you continue by telling her exactly what to do, step-by-step. And you can add compliments as she follows each step.

For instance, “Go down on your knees … Open your mouth … Let me see your tongue … That’s hot! ... Now, lick the tip of my dick …. That’s it. That’s great! … Take it a little deeper. Go slow! I like it slow. … That’s perfect. I love it! …”

When you do it this way, your girl won’t feel any pressure because she can’t do anything wrong. She’s just doing the things you tell her to do.

4. Motivation, positive reinforcement and dirty talk

The way you talk while having sex will influence your girl’s feelings. Use a lot of motivation, positive reinforcement and dirty talk.

Motivation is a way for you to be persistent without adding too much pressure. You can say things like “You can do it!” Or “Try one more time, it’s almost perfect.” Or you can motivate with reverse psychology, and say things like, “You can’t do it, I know you can’t.” Or “Are you scared? You’re such a pussy!” And remember to be playful when you use reverse psychology.

Positive reinforcement is the same as giving compliments. As soon as your girl follows your lead, or tries to follow your lead, give her positive reinforcement. This will make her try even harder.

Dirty talk is another way to influence your girl’s feelings. Sex is a “dirty” activity, so you can’t speak with your normal tone of voice. And you can’t use “nice” words. That would be weird and out of context. Instead, speak with aggression in your voice, like you’re talking with your jaws clenched. And use sexual and dirty words such as fuck, hot, pussy, ass, cock, dick, nasty, slut, whore, bitch, and so on.

5. Being a good role model

Women are terrified of standing out or being out of context. They tend to look to other people for the right way of behaving.

But when your girl is in your bed, you are her only reference point. She will look at how you are behaving, and she will copy your behavior. Or else, she’ll stand out and feel awkward. 

No one really knows what’s considered normal sexual behavior. But if you’re confident in your actions, then your girl will follow your lead. You can do the weirdest and wildest things, and your girl will see them as normal as long as you are comfortable with whatever you’re doing.

For instance, if you think anal sex is awkward or unnatural, then your girl will think it’s awkward and unnatural as well. And she won’t follow your lead when you go for anal sex.

In other words, your girl will not only follow your actions. She will follow your attitudes about sex as well. If you let go of your inhibitions and are willing to do anything in bed, then she will also be willing to do anything.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 37: Not following the 5 steps

You can learn all sorts of persuasion techniques. But they won’t work if you don’t follow the natural male-female interaction.

Mistake 38: Trying out a persuasion technique only once

It’s fun to learn new techniques. But they will only work with experience. Be patient, and you’ll see the results sooner than later.

Mistake 39: Forget to have fun

Sex is recreation. It’s not about how many sexual techniques you can use. Relax, let go, and have fun.

Chapter 4

From Pick-up to Orgasm

Knowing how to make your girl do anything in bed is useless if you don’t have a relationship with a woman in the first place. And she will not do anything unless she agrees to have sex.

The road to making a woman do anything in bed has to start with pick-up and seduction, and it continues with your relationship, and then foreplay and sex.

Arousal is the main factor in all of these stages. And when you use the steps of leading you’ll raise your girl’s arousal level, so she’ll want to move from one stage to the next.

Stage 1: Pick-up and seduction

Women look first and foremost for calm-assertive men. When you meet a woman, talk to her, and lead her through the dating process, she’ll feel your calm-assertive masculinity. And this will eventually lead to a relationship.

Stage 2: Your relationship

This relationship may take many forms. You may be boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, or friends who like to have some fun once in a while.

Whatever type of connection you have, there’s a reason why your girl stays in the relationship. And the reason is your ability to keep her sexually attracted to you. When you throughout the day stay calm and assertive, without reacting to your girl or trying to control her, then she’ll feel a sexual pull towards you.

You don’t have to do much. Just stay present, and make some decisions when you have to. And of course, don’t react to her tests or her “bitching.”

Your girl will of course not be horny all the time, but her arousal level will not be at 0. Instead, it will be just high enough for her to come back to you again and again.

Stage 3: Foreplay

You have seduced your girl, and now you’re in some sort of relationship. But you can’t just start having sex whenever you want to.

This is because your girl’s arousal level stays close to 0 most of the day. And if you just go for sex, then she’ll reject you.

You have to turn up your calm-assertiveness and use the 5 steps to build female arousal. Be playful or casual, make some sexual moves, use teasing, and make sure your girl gets filled with feelings and emotions.

Soon, you don’t have to convince her to have sex. She’ll demand it.

Stage 4: Sex

There’s no clear line between foreplay and sex. You keep on leading and build more and more arousal. And the more arousal your girl feels, the more sexual activities she’s willing to do.

You can be casual, playful, or dominant. You can do wild things, or you can do more civilized things. You can fuck, or you can make love.

Anything is possible. Just keep on doing whatever you feel like, and respond appropriately to resistance and rejection. 

Stage 5: Orgasm

An orgasm comes from a combination of high level of arousal and some kind of vaginal stimulation. If you want your girl to have an orgasm, then make her highly aroused and stimulate her vagina with your fingers, your tongue, or your penis.

Some women come easily, while others rarely have orgasms. But this is not the point of sex. Your focus should be on arousal, because when your girl is aroused, she’ll enjoy every part of sex, with or without an orgasm.

Stage 1 to 5: Focusing on arousal

Arousal is the deciding factor in any stage of sex. It’s arousal that made your girl interested in you. It’s arousal that keeps your girl in the relationship. It’s arousal that makes your girl want to have sex. And it’s arousal that makes your girl do anything in bed.

And therefore, your focus should be on arousal.

Three common mistakes

Mistake 40: Forgetting that rejection usually comes from lack of arousal

There may be a million reasons why your girl doesn’t want to do something in bed. But forget about these reasons. Because when she’s horny enough, she’ll forget about them as well.

Mistake 41: Being obsessed with orgasms

When you know how to have fun in the bedroom, you’ll almost forget about orgasms. Having an orgasm can’t compare to having great sex.

Mistake 42: Taking sex too seriously

You’re a man who’s willing to read a book about sex. And that’s great. But reading about sex and having sex are not the same things. Reading tends to be cerebral and serious. But sex has to be enjoyable and fun.

Let go of everything you’ve learned in this book. It will still be in the back of your mind, and with experience you’ll be better in bed than 99% of all men.

Good luck and have fun!

-Tom Anderson